Obtained: Penguin Random House, ARC
Publish date: April 21, 2015
I have been waiting for this book my entire life. Not necessarily this book, but a book that accomplishes this goal that Bolick was able to achieve. When I heard about Spinster, I was singing and dancing in my head. Here it is! The book girls everywhere have been waiting for! A book that talks about the fact that it is possible for a girl to remain single and yes, still be happy!
In Spinster, Bolick discusses her own romantic conquests and her wishes to be a spinster along the stories of her five awakeners: the women who inspired her and helped her believe that a woman wanting to remain single throughout her life is a viable option. Through the stories of these five women, and her own memoirs, Bolick expresses that marriage and children is only one idea of what women can do with their lives, and it is totally fine for a woman to not find the perfect partner.
What can a woman do if she doesn’t get married? Lots! She can cultivate friendships, spend time with her family, take up hobbies that make her happy and engulf her life in them. She doesn’t necessarily have to become a crazy cat lady, desperately wishing she’d found the right man.
Bolick weaves the memoir pieces into the feminist history flawlessly, not leaving me bored along the way somewhere. Her writing was sophisticated and captivating, and makes it quite easy to see that women being single is a societal norm and a choice for numerous people, not a devastating situation that should be fixed. She also emphasizes that a spinster is not necessarily a single woman, but possibly a coupled woman who realizes the importance of taking time for herself.
I recommend this book, and honestly dedicate this review, to every girl who has ever been told “you’ll find someone else” after a break-up; to any girl who grew up believing she had to find her Prince Charming to be happy; and to any girl who wishes she were good enough for a boy. Please understand something: it is much more important that you are good enough for yourself.